Girl meets boy. Boy shows interest in girl. Girl likes boy. Everything is rainbows and butterflies for boy and girl. Then, boy pulls a disappearing act. Girl is hurt, confused, angry, pissed, and just downright ready to give up on boys all together. No explanation. No further contact. No closure from boy.
We have all had experiences like this. It usually happens with someone we never expect to do it to us. We have so much in common. We know the same people. We always have fun together. We were just meant to meet each other. Nothing could convince you that it could go wrong. Then, without warning it not only goes wrong, it's just over. Mr. Wonderful has become Mr. M.I.A. Prince Charming has become the King of Assholes. You have become the unwanted...the one that got tossed aside...Miss "Will I Ever Get It Right?" While you're busy asking yourself what you did wrong, often we forget to point the finger at the one who dropped off the radar.
I like to call these types of people escape artists. Instead of being polite or confident enough to be straight up with us, they have to run away to avoid any confrontation. Escape artists are selfish. They choose to avoid putting themselves in an uncomfortable situation to save face and make you feel pretty awful in the process. That being said, do you really want to be with someone who doesn't respect you enough to talk to you when things aren't what they expected? That certainly isn't what lasting relationships are made of anyway.
The only good thing about escape artists is that they teach you a very valuable lesson...how to get closure on your own. Break ups are no fun any way you slice it, but that unknowing is pure hell sometimes. However, I think it is time to stop asking what you did wrong and say good riddance to these escape artists. These kind of people are obviously intimidated by our awesomeness and just don't feel worthy of our love. Guess whose problem that is? NOT YOURS, THEIRS! Be able to let these escape artists go on their merry way and realize you are better off without them. You're actually a better person for having no hard feelings about it and rising above their petty behavior. And for the record, they are NOT worthy of your time after that. Anybody who decides to do a disappearing act on you is not allowed to reappear in your life. No exceptions. Or at least not until you have punished them properly....but that's is just another blog waiting to be written.... ;)
** Dedicated to all my girls who know they are amazing and know that if he's stupid enough to walk away, be smart enough to let him go **
