I am not an option. I am not a multiple choice question. I am not an essay question you get to study for. I am not a take home test that you can bring back on Monday. I am not a final exam that determines whether you pass or fail. I am not a survey to be used for evaluation. I don't come with a warning label. I don't have an advisory to forecast the future.
Being with me is unpredictable and risky. It means taking a chance. It's realizing that every day won't be a bed of roses. Every day won't be sunshine and rainbows. Some days will be like a hurricane with wild winds and hard rain. I will rage like a storm when the world gets to be too much. I will take it out on you when I don't know what else to do. Sometimes there will be damage left behind. But if you can wait for that calm after the storm, it will make you remember why you chose to be by my side. The not knowing is scary. I know, but here's a secret for you. I'm scared too. I forgot to bring my weather gear when you blew into my life. I wasn't ready for you, but I recovered quickly. Because nobody wants to miss a good storm.
I am unlike any woman you have ever met. I'm anything but typical. I refuse to be normal. I say what I feel and laugh when I want to, even if it's at the wrong time. I am unforgettable and believe me when I say that I will leave an impression whether you stick around or not. I suffer from a lack of patience and a country girl upbringing. I am not scared of being alone, but I don't like being lonely. I deny wearing my heart on my sleeve yet that's the only way I know how to love. I can make you smile even if the world has just crumbled all around us. I don't know how to do anything unless I am passionate about it. I am afraid of being happy. I am honest even when it's against my better judgement. I act like I can take care of myself, but it's only an act. I want you to take care of me and I will take care of you. I know how to be everything you'll ever need. All I need is the chance to show you.
I am a woman who is worth your time. I should be a priority, without any question. I will not change who I am. I will grow over time, but my core identity is rock solid and cannot be shattered. My pride is unshakable and is sometimes responsible for my biggest mistakes. I've been known to be a big disappointment. It's the last thing I ever want to do to you, so it's only fair that I warn you of that. The worst thing you could ever do to me is make me look like a fool. I find it hard to recover from a bruised ego because I never want you to see me as anything less than perfect.
This is who I am. I don't expect you to like every single thing, but I do expect you to respect my individuality, as I do yours. Life with me is anything but boring. I don't think about the destination. I live in the moment. I live for the ride. Are you ready to sit shotgun? Or will you be left behind?
Sunday, March 14, 2010
Sunday, March 7, 2010
The "Romance is Dead" Reload
Almost a year ago, I penned a little diddy titled, "Romance is Dead" and it can be found here. While the year that followed that didn't disprove my theory, I find I need to give an updated version. Romance isn't dead; it has been reincarnated to suit a new generation. While I scoffed at the lack of romantic gestures, I have discovered it had more to do with the men I was choosing and my own lack of looking for the small stuff. We have to make our own definition of what gives us those stomach flutters and it is up to us to define it to our mate if they aren't quite filling our romance quota.
The days of lovesick poetry and handwritten love letters have taken their downfall. Yet, they have been replaced with inside jokes shared through text messages and twitterpated inspired Facebook updates. At first glance, these things don't seem like they can live up to the "old school" tricks of romance, but these new age gestures bring a smile just as easily. Afterall, if you consider the fact that when you receive a text message, you know exactly when that person is thinking of you. Love letters may have the "I think of you all the time" comment but the text message provides us with proof of the fact. Not to mention that silly grin and butterflies you get when you receive an unexpected text from the person you're digging. On that same note, those butterflies are what is felt when we receive the text message, so imagine the opposite when we don't hear from the person we like. Yeah, doesn't sound very fun, does it? So, don't be a jerk! Even if you're busy, just a text to say hi is better than nothing.
Some romantic gestures are timeless and consider this your hint, boys. I don't care what a girl says, we love flowers. It's one of those things that is often seen in movies and rarely in life. The spontaneous flower delivery is, of course, awesome. We will still be just as happy to receive them on our birthday or some other special occasion, such as to celebrate a job promotion. It's the thought that counts though, so don't even think about going with roses. Think of flower giving as a way to show off your creativity and try to pick something you think we'd like (instead of going for the obvious "old school" choice of roses.) I don't want to hear any complaints about how expensive flowers are either. My high school sweetheart once pulled over on the side of the road without saying a word, jumped out of the car, and came back with a handful of wildflowers. Best bouquet I have ever received, hands down.
If romance can be reincarnated, then it can also be of a karmic nature as well. So, remember how we treat others in relationships may very come back to bless or haunt us depending on our own actions. It couldn't hurt to improve your love karma by using a few of the above gestures mentioned. At the end of the day, we all just want to be with someone who makes us smile. Maybe if we learn to make our someone smile first, it will make it easier for them to return the favor. I once read a quote that said, "One does all the work, while the other does all the smiling." I used to believe that, but I think maybe it's time for my own romance reincarnation. If both partners aren't smiling, I see no reason why they should screw up their karma if they're clearly not happy together. As the Dalai Lama said, "Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions." I believe both partners must balance the workload for both to smile. If both are keeping the relationship karma at an even keel then perhaps they will discover their own way to keep the romance alive.
The days of lovesick poetry and handwritten love letters have taken their downfall. Yet, they have been replaced with inside jokes shared through text messages and twitterpated inspired Facebook updates. At first glance, these things don't seem like they can live up to the "old school" tricks of romance, but these new age gestures bring a smile just as easily. Afterall, if you consider the fact that when you receive a text message, you know exactly when that person is thinking of you. Love letters may have the "I think of you all the time" comment but the text message provides us with proof of the fact. Not to mention that silly grin and butterflies you get when you receive an unexpected text from the person you're digging. On that same note, those butterflies are what is felt when we receive the text message, so imagine the opposite when we don't hear from the person we like. Yeah, doesn't sound very fun, does it? So, don't be a jerk! Even if you're busy, just a text to say hi is better than nothing.
Some romantic gestures are timeless and consider this your hint, boys. I don't care what a girl says, we love flowers. It's one of those things that is often seen in movies and rarely in life. The spontaneous flower delivery is, of course, awesome. We will still be just as happy to receive them on our birthday or some other special occasion, such as to celebrate a job promotion. It's the thought that counts though, so don't even think about going with roses. Think of flower giving as a way to show off your creativity and try to pick something you think we'd like (instead of going for the obvious "old school" choice of roses.) I don't want to hear any complaints about how expensive flowers are either. My high school sweetheart once pulled over on the side of the road without saying a word, jumped out of the car, and came back with a handful of wildflowers. Best bouquet I have ever received, hands down.
If romance can be reincarnated, then it can also be of a karmic nature as well. So, remember how we treat others in relationships may very come back to bless or haunt us depending on our own actions. It couldn't hurt to improve your love karma by using a few of the above gestures mentioned. At the end of the day, we all just want to be with someone who makes us smile. Maybe if we learn to make our someone smile first, it will make it easier for them to return the favor. I once read a quote that said, "One does all the work, while the other does all the smiling." I used to believe that, but I think maybe it's time for my own romance reincarnation. If both partners aren't smiling, I see no reason why they should screw up their karma if they're clearly not happy together. As the Dalai Lama said, "Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions." I believe both partners must balance the workload for both to smile. If both are keeping the relationship karma at an even keel then perhaps they will discover their own way to keep the romance alive.
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