The human heart is said to be one of the most vital organs in the body. It has four chambers and is surrounded by a protective wall. It is responsible for pumping blood through our body to keep us alive. I can read any medical book to explain how it physically works. Despite all of the world's medical advancements, no one can explain the true inner workings of our hearts. The intagible chambers inside where we compartmentalize our feelings for others go unseen by medical equipment. How we feel for others is what flows inside our metaphorical hearts instead of blood. Yet, they serve the same purpose of keeping us alive. Without the affection and love of others, we're just dead inside. So, why is it so hard to let down the wall around our hearts? Letting down our guard opens up the chance for our hearts to thrive and soak in all that love. Perhaps it is fear that if we don't get that love we're hoping for, it's worse than death. Our own feelings can sustain us, but it is returned love that makes us complete.
Greek philosopher Plato theorized that the origin of reasoning came from the brain, but passion was a child of the "fiery" heart. Logic certainly does not live inside our hearts, or there might be a lot less heartaches. If we were all able to listen to our brains when it comes to love, we would know that some choices are better than others. But most of the time our hearts and brains don't see eye to eye. Our brains are what cause us to second guess ourselves and our partners. Our hearts tend to push us in a certain direction even when we don't know why. So, who's the smarter of the two? If we listen to logic, are we turning our back on passion? The choices of our hearts cannot be understood by rational thought. It is the act of feeling and following where those feelings may lead. The smart option may not always be the right choice when it comes to love.
How do we convince our hearts to feel for someone we know can take care of us but we lack the passion for? We don't. Our hearts don't understand what it means to do the right thing...they only know what feels right. Heartaches are inevitable as we weave our way through ours and others' feelings. Yet, at the end of the day you must be honest with yourself and fair to those who invest their own hearts in you, especially if you don't share their feelings. We can't help what we feel and trying to force it isn't good for anyone in the long run. My own heart is still figuring out where it wants to be but I do know this much: "I'm looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can't-live-without-you love." My heart won't compromise for anything less. And neither should yours.
-ldw
[quote by carrie bradshaw from sex & the city's season 6 finale episode]
1 comment:
Lindsey,
I always thought I wanted the same kind of love as you and Carrie, and eventually I found true love. It is nothing like what I wanted and dreamed of. It is so simple and so much better. It is something inside you that says this is the person God made for me. I am proud of you for walking away from the man that could give you security. Women that are not that smart are the reason our divorce rate is as high as it is.... Wait on the good stuff my friend.
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