"Those" Girls

All of us know at least one of those girls. She's the sweet, simple girl that always has a boyfriend. For as long as you've known her, this girl has been in relationship after relationship. Like any girl, she has had her heart broken and even joined you a time or two on the "boys suck" bandwagon. However, like clockwork a few weeks after that, there will be a new man in her life. She, unlike you, doesn't have one night stands or flavors of the week. Somehow this girl has figured out how to make her men stick around. Before I get any of "those" girls bashing my blog, let me go ahead and say that my hat is off to you. And I'll tell you why.

I know you're thinking that I'm going to say I admire those girls who can make men stay because I seem to always make them stray. This may be true, but I'm more impressed with their ability to put up with men's pretentions. I'm quite certain at this point that the reason I can't keep men around is because I call their bluff most of the time. Those simple girls don't really like to make a fuss and they were taught by their mothers to be accommodating. I'm not knocking those girls because while they are cuddled up at night next to a warm body, I'm lying awake listening to some acoustic melody and cuddled up with my pillow. I do wonder, however, if perhaps they are lying awake at night too, even in the comfort of their lover's arms. Are they also dreaming of a man they've yet to find?

Furthermore I wonder if those girls have ever been like me. If so, how did they make the transition? Am I willing to make the transition? Do I want to? Is it better to be one of "those" girls or your own girl? I think for the most part I don't want to sacrifice who I am just so a man will stay with me. In my experience, there is always something inconvenient about me that men don't want to deal with. So, how do we decide which parts of us to compromise in order to find happiness? I am currently soul searching on which parts of me I'm willing to bend and which parts I don't plan to budge on. Once I reach that answer, I may be content with taking a step into the world of those girls.

Until then, “Just let me go, we have to be able to criticize what we love, to say what we have to say 'cause if you're not trying to make something better, then as far as I can tell, you are just in the way.” Thank you, Ani Difranco.