life unexpected...

“The best things in life are unexpected - because there were no expectations.” 

- Eli Khamarov

 Life is full of surprises. We meet people we never saw coming, but can't see our lives without them once they're here. We experience moments that seem too good to be true and yet start to show their significance in retrospect. That old cliche saying, "When you stop looking for it, you'll find it" might actually have some weight to it now. All the times we spent looking for someone or something, our minds and hearts had expectations for what that was "supposed" to be like. Except maybe our hearts don't really know what they need until it comes along. This is especially true if what comes along is something completely new to us. Our brains are quick to throw up the caution signs when the unexpected comes along. After all, if this has never happened to us before then it has to be bad, right? Somewhere along the way, the world has convinced us that happy endings don't actually exist. However, I'm keen to argue that only those happy endings which we held expectations for are the ones that fail. The key is to be open. Be open to the people and opportunities that life brings to you. Be open to the possibility that just because it hasn't happened before doesn't mean it isn't supposed to. Be open to the unexpected and you'll find that the world will start to open up for you. The only thing you should close is any expectations you have for what is going to make you happy. There is no way to know that before it happens. The same things that made you happy in the past are not likely to make you happy in the future. Over time, we change and grow. Our needs, desires, hopes, and dreams change with us. Our definition of happiness also changes and we try to shape our own reality around our idea of happiness. This is where the importance of openness comes in. Once we have created our meaning of happiness, we may dismiss someone or something because they don't seem to fit into our definition. There are times when we must remember that those things which we can't define might be exactly what we need.Or perhaps have been searching for all along...but of course, we didn't know it. That's the beauty of the unexpected. Be open to fate. She's pretty cool once you get to know her.

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