No Code Breaking Necessary

We are all familiar with the commonly used phrase of "girl code." This code of conduct varies depending on who you ask. Well, I've decided there is a reason it is called "girl" code because women do not need any code in order to be loyal to their friends. They just are. If a woman does something that hurts her friend, she will step up and apologize. Sometimes our pride may delay that apology but if it's a valuable friendship, the apology will always come. Everyone makes mistakes and nobody is perfect. True friendship is able to maneuver through mistakes by forgiving and learning from those mistakes together. In most cases, these lessons strengthen friendships. However, if a woman finds herself constantly questioning the actions of her friend, it may be time to move on from that friendship. Or at least take a step back from the level of trust that has been put into it.

Trust is a relationship within itself and if it's absent in friendship, then what's the point? If a friend is lying to you, then they're not much a friend. Some may argue that there are certain situations that lying is acceptable to spare the feelings of their friend. This is true...if we're talking about girls. Girls also seem to believe that omitting information is not considering lying. These lessons of truth telling are learned as we get older which is why I say that girls haven't quite figured it out yet. Most women will agree that they had to learn the hard way with friends that omission is still betrayal and often times worse than an outright lie. I'm not judging girls because I know I used to be one. However, I am quite certain I paid my dues in the friendship screw up department and have learned how to be a loyal friend to the women I care about. I guess I've just lost my tolerance for girls and their silly antics. Antics, such as, trying to play the victim when you're the guilty party. Yeah, I used to play that game too. Then, I grew up. I grew up to find that while girl code needs to be defined, woman code is unspoken yet known between friends who truly care about each other. If you have to ask yourself if it was wrong, then it probably was. If you have to lie about what you're doing, then you probably shouldn't be doing it. And if you have to ask if your friend is mad at you, then you probably already know the answer.